Wedding Myths: You can’t see your partner before the ceremony.

Are you thinking about getting ready with your partner and/or doing a first look before your ceremony, but are worried that it might be bad luck or ruin your aisle walk moment?

I’m here to tell you, don’t worry! Do it!

Firstly- let’s dig a bit deeper into why ‘you can’t see your partner before the wedding’ was even a thing. The origins of this tradition are pretty yuck - it harks back to the days where a marriage was a business tradition, rather than a love match.  To avoid the risk of the groom deciding he didn’t like the look of his future bride, the father of the bride would ensure that they only met for the first time at the alter. 

There are also some superstitions around if you see your partner on the morning of the wedding its bad luck- but here is a more modern take on this:

• If you see your partner before the wedding you can share your excitement together and/or calm each other down

• It means that the moment when you first see your partner, all ready to go, can be a more private moment for the two of you - rather than something shared with all your guests

• By seeing your partner before the wedding, it opens up so.much.more.time! You can do photos together which means less to try and fit in, in that small space of time between the end of the ceremony and the beginning of the reception.

Konstantina and Mik were all about discarding old traditions that didn’t serve their view of what their wedding day should be about.

They went out to breakfast the morning of their wedding, before getting ready at the same place - a beautiful AirBnB they had hired near their venue. Kon got dressed upstairs and Mik downstairs- so they still had a beautiful ‘first look’ moment. They then had portraits just the two of them, before meeting up with their parents for a pre-ceremony celebratory drink - which was a lovely way to share a special moment with their parents and put everyone’s nerves at ease. 

It was still a beautiful moment when Mik first saw Kon at the end of the aisle - and meant that they had more time post ceremony to spend celebrating with their guests.

Kon says “The fact we saw each other before the ceremony made it more about experiencing the whole thing together. It was also more fun and helped settle our nerves”.

Image Credit: White Shutter Photography and Sarah Godenzi Photography