Here's the Story: Your Couples' Questionnaire & Why It Matters A Lot

 Aka why filling in your Couples’ questionnaire is some of the most important wedding planning you will do.

As a kid, I LOVED reading. I was the nerdy kid who would do the MS Readathon every year and took pleasure noting down each book I completed on that paper form- sometimes adding my own page when I had filled out all available spaces on the provided one.

However, when I became a mum, my love affair with reading took a backseat – I would either fall into bed exhausted each night or fall into the trap of doom- scrolling on my phone instead.

So, at the start of this year, I made a commitment to put my phone away each night and pick up a book instead. And while some days I faltered (thanks Netflix!), I re-ignited my love of reading- getting lost in stories of brilliant characters, vivid scenery and plots that grabbed you and wouldn’t let you go till the last page.

I fell back in love with the power of storytelling.

Good stories are everything. They can captivate you, move you and take you on a journey through all the emotions. However, good stories don’t just happen. They demand a little effort: a hook, colourful characters, a bold voice, and a canvas that paints the world where your story unfurls.

That’s why, to really personalise your ceremony, your couples ‘questionnaire is so important.

It helps transform your ceremony from an ‘off the shelf, insert-names here’ situation, into one that your guests will know has been completely written for you and your partner.

Around six months before their wedding date, I send each of my couples a link to complete their couples’ questionnaire online.

Here are some of my top tips on filling in your couples’ questionnaire, to maximise your story:

1.     Take Your Time. Don’t try and rush it 5 minutes before your next meeting. Set aside some time of an evening or on the weekend, where you can really get into the details. 

2.     Google Forms FTW - If you're on Team Google, I’ve got you covered. You can log in, save your progress and come back when you're feeling those creative vibes. No need to rush!

3.     Work Alone – This is not the time to collaborate with your partner.  You will each have different perspectives on the same event, so by filling it in individually, I will get a much more holistic view of your story.

4.     Details, Details, Details – if you want a basic story, give me basic info. If you want a rich story, spill all the tea. Don’t tell me you met in a bar – tell me the name of the bar, a bit about the type of place it was, who was there that night with you (by name preferably). Don’t tell me your partner is caring, tell me about how they will always have a glass of water and Hydralite next to your bed after a big night or about the time they looked after you when you had food poisoning overseas. All these details will help me paint a masterpiece with your words.

5.     It’s Ok To Find This Hard – not everyone is used to pouring their heart out on paper, and some of these questions will challenge you. I just encourage you to be open and honest. And reach out if you are struggling. I’ve got your back.

So, if you're keen for a ceremony that's like no other, let's talk,

I’d love to hear about your love and discuss how we can create a personalised ceremony that's sprinkled with the magic of your unique story.

Hit me up for a chat – no strings attached!